On giving advice (II)

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ddmpatterson@gmail.com says:

19:16:46Dear Kapil Hoe, it is Borderline hoe again. one of my dearest childhood friends decided to give me advice on my relationship situation when her boyfriend told her not to come to my birthday party. While advice is all nice and well, her telling me not to talk to my other dude because he is bad for me and he my be using me to get back at my ex, and the other dude is looking her, doesnt qualify as logical advice. I'm still upset at her for not coming, and since she does have a history of making worse choices than I do, is it fair i told her to mind her own bisnis since the pot shudnt be lecturing the kettle? Worse her boyfriend is displaying abuser tendencies and she doesnt see it. What shud I do?

I say:

19:26:12Dear Borderline, firstly, when will u make the jump to Hoe and stop this borderline business? Anyway, your friend deserves the mental equivalent of a slap so she can see her own situation instead of annoying u with her totally unnecessary views on urs. Also, to get this straight, is it that the guy ur talking to (the one ur actual bf hates) is after that girl even though he's [allegedly] with u? If that is the case, u may just want to make sure that he is not ur main bf, just to protect whatever shred of morality and emotional stability that remains in u.

-Kapil Hoe

-Kapil Dev

on giving advice (I)

The following is an excerpt from a convo I had with a good friend of mine. I hope u laugh!!!

ddmpatterson says:

19:04:19: Dear Dr. Kapil Hoe Blake, I seem to have a problem. While caught between 2 guys, I'm getting to know my deceased older brother's best friend from high school. He always treatedd me nice, and allowed me to hurt him. The problem with this I knew him from I was 9, and he is 10 years older. He admitted that he had feelings for me that developed over the years and chose not to say anything, while he saw me get intimate with another of his friends. If I continue, his feelings will get worse and he may get hurt. What should I do? Signed BHP sufferer (borderline hoe personality)

I say:

19:08:29: Dear BHP Sufferer, It's no problem to mess around with as many men as possible as long as you're being careful and you know who ur baby's daddy is. Also, please be sure to keep ur many relationships seperate from each other as there may be serious consequences (for example, being without a partner) that may arise if u disregard that warning. Finally, Please remember that ur playmates are people too, no matter how they allow u to trample their feelings and enslave them to ur will. U may wanna keep that in mind. -Kapil Hoe

LOL!!!! IKR!!!!! anyway, more to follow.

-Kapil Dev

On painful experiences.....

One of the things I've often said is that I could have never become the person I am now without having been through the trials I've faced. Now, that's totally true, and I'm [relatively] ok with the person I am, but every now and then I wonder if it may have been better to have skipped a particular set of experiences.
As always, when I'm not doing anything my mind tends to wonder and delve into memories that leave me despondent and emotionally disturbed. This may be a contributing factor to my constant need to be distracted and/or in the company of other people. This also could partially explain why I mostly cloud my thinking processes with drugs when I'm feeling 'lonely'.
For a couple weeks now, I've been dwelling on this girl called Samantha. Not that we had a good relationship or anything...we never even kissed, actually... (yeah, yeah....go ahead and laugh). But she was special. She was the only person I could tell everything without reservation. We spent hours talking about life, shooting the breeze, laughing about stuff that happened at work.... She was an awesome friend.
However, one day I realized that I love her. It was rather devastating how I found out, actually.... She told me she was gonna move in with a guy. In hindsight, I think she told me in person just so she could see my expression. I tried to hide it but she had already seen.... She already knew.
In the night she called and told me that we couldn't be friends anymore. Her reason was that she loved me. I didn't understand though, until she sent me a text explaining that she had always loved me, but thought I wasn't interested. She then said the reason we couldn't be in contact was because she was pregnant for the dude and he loves her. She was positive that if we still kept in contact she would have to leave the dude for me. She didn't want to do that.
That was the most heart-rending thing that has ever happened to me, but I respected her. I kept my promise. I still check her facebook....still pump her friends for information about her....still miss our talks.... But she's moved on now, and I hope that someday, so will I.

-Kapil Dev
-Necrodevz

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