On love and CP

It's the age-old question: "How do I know that what I'm feeling is truly love?" Well.... I don't particularly know anyone who has that answer down pat. In fact, I'd venture to say that the people who purport to know the most about this phenomenon of 'Love' are just as befuddled as the rest of us when it comes on to knowing which of the god-knows-how-many billions of people on the planet is........*drum roll*.......'The One".

"The One"- The only person in this world who is such a perfect fit for you that the whimsical notion of  'Happy Ever After' becomes a certainty instead of a virtually nonexistent possibility.

Yeah... I think its a load of crap. There is no way anyone can convince me that in this world there is only one person that you'll be forever happy with. Do you know what the odds of meeting that person would be? Take the number of the earth's total population (xbillion), subtract 1 (x-1 billion) and divide 1 by that number (1/(x-1 billion)). That's a probability of nil in my mind.

So what then is the answer?

DISCLAIMER: I am in no way an expert on love matters. This is my PERSONAL opinion.

I think that there are people with whom the probability of compatibility is significantly higher than with others. If we want to look at this from a logical standpoint, lets apply math to the situation, i.e.

A perfect score for a relationship is 100 cp(compatibility points). It represents a 100% chance that there will be a lasting relationship of 20 or more years. If I (for example) have a relationship value of 35cp, the person that would be most compatible with me would be a person with a relationship value of 65cp, thus giving the relationship a perfect value of 100cp.

Of course, nothing in life is that simple. People are firstly creatures of change, so a person's cp now may not be the same as it was last week or even a month ago. This would introduce a variable we'll refer to as 'cp variance' to the equation. Cp variance is the raising or lowering of cp due to a person's current mindset, emotional orientation and interests. Ideally, the cp variance of a pair of people would be inversely proportional to each other at the same frequency (no need to explain that I think).

So far, if we could find out what factors determine cp and then introduce a workable scale model we could probably create some equation which we could then label the 'matchmaker's equation' and use that to predict if the pairing of two people would survive or not. But that would take the fun out of relationships. people would hook up because the'll be able to live a life with the ideal, compatible partner.

So lets shake it up. Lets factor in attraction. This is what makes relationships sizzle, spark and ignite the flames of passion. It also complicates the matchmaker's equation to such a degree that it becomes almost impossible to think about. I mean.... we usually says that we are attracted to a 'type' of person, that is, if we are attracted to a series of persons we would expect them to share certain physical or mental characteristics. But how many times have you been attracted to someone so far outside of your comfort zone that you have to take a really good look at yourself or wonder what you're doing?

Yeah, I thought so..... too many times to count, right? I wont even bother trying to go into that. I'm not qualified and I really don't care anyway. The truth is, I enjoy the trial and error process, no matter how much it may hurt to break up with someone that you thought had a high probability of being "The One" (lol), and I think life would be really boring otherwise.

Ciao

-Kapil Dev
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